Intuition in Relationships – Using Your Gut Instincts

Are you struggling to understand and improve your relationships? Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Or, maybe you’ve had signs and revelations in the past but have not yet honed your intuitive skills, your gut instincts?

Life is full of relationships and navigating our way through the maze of people and interactions gets easier as you learn to listen to your internal guidance system, intuition, gut instincts, those nudges from the universe.  Let’s explore tools for tuning into your intuition that can lead to more harmony in your relationships.


Improve your home and work environments by following your gut


Strengthening your intuition in relationships can improve both your work and home environments. Your relationships don’t have to be complicated and confusing.  Using your sixth sense may be the missing key that can help you connect with others and heal damaged or broken relationships, improve communication, develop focus and cooperation.  When you learn to trust your intuition, it will enhance inspiration and creativity in your interactions as well as help you understand another’s feelings.  There is much to be gained.

When we fall in love our hearts are wide open and divine intuition can flow more freely. Imagine if we could tap into this power at will whenever we wanted. It’s nearly impossible to maintain this euphoric state, however, with practice we can build deep connection and compassion in our relationships.

It is amazing how often gut instinct is associated with relationship dilemmas and it’s importance for determining where to turn for help. My research for intuition in business and in relationships found the term “gut instincts” so many times, it “feels” necessary to give it special attention.


Why is trusting your gut instinct so powerful? 

Our instincts recognize when to run from danger.  Your gut has been busily recording information as long as you’ve been alive.  According to Melody Wilding, a licensed therapist and professor of human behavior at Hunter College, “It holds insights that aren’t immediately available to your conscious mind right now, but they’re all things that you’ve learned and felt. In the moment, we might not be readily able to access specific information, but our gut has it at the ready.”

The impulses we get from our gut are usually more honest and unfiltered than messages of the mind.  While it is widely accepted that we are born with instincts to help us survive, Dr. Judith Orloff, a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and bestselling author, believes the benefits of listening to your instincts goes far beyond making good life-or-death decisions. Dr. Orloff tells us:

“Living more intuitively demands that you’re in the moment
and that makes for a more passionate life.”

It’s also important to note that Dr. Orloff feels gut instincts are far from infallible. Due to social conditioning we create unconscious beliefs, and these beliefs can get in the way by producing first impressions and snap decisions that are completely flawed. So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust? Once you’ve noticed an intuitive hit, she recommends you engage your rational mind and weigh your choices and then decide how best to act on them.

Thoughts from our mind can have a strong effect on our responses to an event and the mind is always thinking. If you are used to listening to your thoughts through meditation or other practices, you know how judgmental the human mind can be. Maybe what has kept us alive, and sometimes civilized, throughout evolution is the ability to make judgments in split seconds. Our instincts are not our thoughts.


How to get better acquainted with your gut (your intuition):

  1. Ask yourself a question and listen for an immediate answer. Discern what you feel in your body.
  2. Make a decision and then listen to your body. If it’s a bad decision you’ll feel some kind of aversion to it. You may need to practice to even recognize what feels good or bad in your gut. Know yourself; know your gut.
  3. Practice mindfulness. Try to stay mindful and conscious throughout the day. Check-in often to see what you’re thinking and feeling. Set aside some reflection time to meditate, do yoga, journal, take a walk around the park–anything that will give you the space to check-in with yourself.

There are volumes of information about the deep-rooted tool called gut instincts.  This subject warrants more research and information to revitalize and bring to awareness our basic, instinctive skills.


Intuition Resources for Relationships

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz invites love into your life.  It opens your heart to receive love and gently reminds you that you are worthy of love. Wear this stone or keep it by your bedside to remind you that love is coming your way.

Read what Dr. Judith Orloff has to say about the 5 Intuitions about Romance not to Ignore.

Here’s an amusing story with lessons to learn about the signs and messages of love:  Visit the Tarot Lady



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